In our latest Womanizer x Shedoesthecity boudoir session, shot by the talented Juliette & Fanny of Scandaleuse Photography, we get to know Pamela Horner, a Tantric Sexual Empowerment Coach who wants to help people have “epic orgasms”. It’s a goal we respect and admire (as does Womanizer).
 
Aa a woman in recovery for sexual trauma, Pamela’s journey to get to where she is today is both harrowing and inspiring. She has spent a lot of time healing from her past, and now directs her energy to  helping other people reclaim their sexuality,”I made it my mission to help people reclaim their inner God/Goddess in order to own their power and pleasure.”  The work she does with clients help them gain confidence—in all facets of their lives.
 
 
Gorgeous is one word we’d use to describe Pamela’s photos, but they also exude a warm and peaceful energy—a sense of ease. A fascinating person with a generous heart, we were curious to get to know Pamela more…
 
How would you describe your sexuality?
I would describe my sexuality as bi-sexual.
 
How did you reclaim your power?
I discovered that sexual power was the key to feeling alive, confident, magical, and it even helped me make money. When I figured out how to use this power for good, to help people reawaken their most shamed, neglected lost parts, everything started to transform not only for me, for my clients as well. I literally went from wanting to end my life, feeling numb, worthless and empty to feeling powerful, magical, radiant and influential, able to command the love, relationships and income that I desired. 
 
 
What is tantric sex, exactly?
Tantra is about connection and presence… it isn’t inherently about sex, but its teachings allow you to see and experience deep pleasure in the present moment and transmit that feeling to another, if you so choose. It helps you to reconnect to deeper levels of bliss.
 
Sounds amazing, how do you help people get there? 
I help people step into their power through one on one coaching. Everyone is born powerful, but along the way we receive messages that we are ‘less than’. We can fake confidence for most of the time, but in heightened states of vulnerability—like sex—there is nowhere to hide. This is where a lack of power can show up as a lack of arousal, or not being able to ask for what you want—feeling unfulfilled, or even uninterested in pleasure. 
 
I truly believe that the reason that people don’t have the love, money, or pleasure that they want is because their mind and nervous system believe that it is unsafe for them to expand beyond what is familiar. This is really deep work but when you are able to access the primal self, diving into the deepest level of your unconscious mind, you can experience radical change in your life.
 
What types of people do you help through your Tantric Sexual Empowerment coaching?
My clients are typically successful entrepreneurs that know they are destined for so much more. They’ve had moments of being so close only to find that there is something they are missing… that something is the connection to their deepest most hypnotic power – sexual power.
 
What advice do you wish to give your younger self?
As long as you are trying to seek approval, you will never taste true power. True power exists within you and you have always had it. Happiness, desire, pleasure and delightful deviousness are all a part of your true essence. The only way to hold onto these things is by diving into yourself, getting to know yourself, and understanding that loving yourself is not something anyone would ever look back on and say “I wish I didn’t do that”. Also, I love you, you are a fierce fucking warrior Goddess and you are here to turn the world on. 
 
 
Curious to learn more about Pamela? Follow her on Instagram at @theawakenedaphrodite. See more of our Womanizer x Sheoesthecity boudoir shoots here. Thank you to our partner Womanizer for generously supporting our ongoing Boudoir Photo Sessions. We love working with them, and we also love the selection of Womanizer toys that live in our bedroom. Have you tried?