Feminism and porn are two subjects that seem perpetually at odds with each other. It’s understandable, considering that porn is largely seen as an industry that profits from debasing women. And recently, it seems like the industry has traded in the cheesy plots and soft lenses of its early years for scenes that are increasingly violent and downright degrading (but more on that later). While feminism has tackled huge issues such as fighting for voting rights and fighting (still) for equal pay for equal work, it has also spawned a subset of women who are fighting for good sex.

It might sound silly to some, but it’s a real issue. Women are still often viewed as objects whose sole purpose is to provide sexual pleasure to men. But thanks to sex-positive feminism, women have decided to stand up and ask, “What about me?” And we’ve made huge strides. Women are finally being told that they deserve good sex and that their experience of pleasure is important. We’ve begun to openly discuss issues like how to have an orgasm, the G-spot, the clitoris, sex toys, and yes, even masturbation. So why is it that porn remains taboo? After all, if women are buying sex toys, isn’t it conceivable that they’d want some viewing material to go along with them? Well, that’s where we start to realize that not all porn is made equal.

Porn has changed a lot over the years. It’s no longer just a video of two people fucking—it’s usually a woman having a cock shoved down her throat and struggling not to gag. Plenty of scenes today show a woman getting dick slapped and ending the video with ejaculate all over her face. It’s no wonder that most women don’t want to watch this stuff. It’s not hot, it’s icky. But I’m willing to guess that a lot of women would be turned on by seeing performers who look like they are really into each other, and most importantly, watching scenes where a woman has a real orgasm.

That’s what makes feminist porn so refreshing. We can finally watch women who look like real women (not Barbie dolls) fuck and get fucked, and know that they enjoy every minute of it. We can appreciate a subset of the industry that truly encourages LGBT representation and not people who are just “gay for pay.” We don’t have to feel guilty wondering if the performers in the scene actually want to be there. Porn becomes a lot more palatable when we see videos that are about celebrating sexual pleasure and exploring the various ways to experience it. So maybe we feminists can finally relax knowing that there is good porn out there that is inclusive, respectful, and accessible.

Sounds great, right? So why not check out this year’s Feminist Porn Awards, happening Friday, April 5? Tickets can be purchased here.