Just like a workout routine or diet, our sex life can begin to fall into patterns. Maybe you’re a morning person who likes to start the day with an invigorating romp. Or perhaps your romantic life pauses during the workweek and then gets frisky come Friday night. If you’re in a brand new relationship, you’ll likely have amped up the frequency of your naked physical life, breaking only for food and hydration.

Whatever your thing is, we’re happy you’ve found a comfort zone; however, just like switching up that workout routine, your sex life is always capable of changing, evolving, and improving. (Even if you think you’ve already mastered the art of sex.) 

So, how do you go about enhancing your sex life? A recent survey by Durex revealed that 37% of Canadians questioned agree that the information available about improving their orgasms is not good enough. Well, we’ve found that the best way to achieve this is through open communication, but unless you’re planning on having a “sex meeting,” conversing openly about what you want can sometimes be a little tricky. Knowing that, we’ve come up with three ideas to get the (sexy) convo started:

1. Open mind, open bodies. Text this to your partner: “On Wednesday night, I’d like to have a date night with you and talk about our sex life.” Turn on some music, order in dinner and once you’re both seated, may we suggest you start the conversation like this: “Let’s play a game, every time a new song comes on, I’m going to tell you something I like in bed. You have to do the same, k?” 

2. Fun additions for the bedroom. It’s amazing what a new addition to your bag of tricks can do for your love life. We recently tested out the New Durex Intense Orgasmic Gel and think it’s the perfect little thing to liven up your sex life (and your clit!). Hide it under your pillow, or use it as an invitation for sex. Ask your lover to drip some on your clitoris and rub, or take the DIY route. Either way, this little tube of magic will allow you to feel a heightened tingly sensation. Once you’re done, roll over and say, “What did you think of that?” Commence convo! #OrgasmsForAll.

3. For the real go-getter, we urge you to create a summer sex bucket list. You can incorporate activities 1 and 2 however you see fit. The idea is to take turns dropping little notes of desires into a jar, and then take turns picking the sensual and sexual wants all summer long. Seriously, make summer 2017 the best sex you’ve ever had.

All of this ^ is about bringing it back to our 3Es of sex: Explore, Experiment, Enjoy. OMG – we’re so excited.