It has become abundantly clear that powerful sex can be a huge stress relief.

The other night I was feeling extremely stressed out from work, my barfable debt and the laundry that was scattered all over the kitchen – don’t ask. I was inclined to pour myself a glass of wine and fret in the backyard alone, but then I thought that instead I would apply my key learnings from the K-Y Intimacy Experiment and fuck instead.

I dug around for a candle, put on my new lingerie and told Nick that I was going to massage his foot. He kind of laughed at first but once I had set the scene and demanded that he get off Facebook, the room suddenly felt like a Turkish spa. The light from the candle flickered in the mirror and I went to the end of the bed to lather his feet with lotion. There’s a reason why an entire industry exists around reflexology, “the feet possess some 70,000 nerve endings, with trigger points that correlate to the entire body, so by massaging your partner’s feet you are effectively connecting with his or her entire body,” this I learned from Laura Berman’s The Book of Love – Real Sex for Real Women.

He may have scoffed while I pulled each one of his toes and slapped the ball of his foot, but within minutes I had loosened him up and he was ready to give me a turn. The foot massage then moved to my butt, and we swapped the regular lotion forK-Y Touch Massage Oil. At first I giggled when he dramatically changed the course of massage from my lower back to between my legs, but laughter soon succumbed to deep moaning. The natural progression of things escalated to Nick massaging his you-know-what – using the curve of my ass. It was a wonderful way to get the body heated up and tingly for sex; sensually slow and erotic.

We made love in front of the candlelit mirror, tossed in a vibrator for added value and I finished off with a cry of ecstasy aided by him firmly grabbing my ass, spanking it and pinching my right nipple – hard. There may have been some dirty talk.

When my orgasm was ready to erupt, I tried to push all my worry and stress into it – and released it all at once in a  somewhat terrifying scream. Fuck yeah – that felt good. I truly hope the neighbours heard me.

The next homework assignment is the Stranger Connect assignment. This will involve me pretending to meet Nick for the first time – so a little role playing outside of the house. You can see how K-Y Intimacy couple Tammy and Dave put this to the test in the video above under K-Y Intimacy Experiment. Tammy and Dave did this at Toronto’s prestigious gym – The Yorkville Club. I haven’t decided whether Nick and I will get theatrical at the west end YMCA – or if maybe this will work better after I have a stiff gin and tonic at a hotel bar. Park Hyatt roof might be an excellent setting to role-play, I may even come with an accent.