What do you remember learning in sex-ed? Do you have any particular vivid memory?
I remember learning more about sex at home than at school. At home, when I was very young, I remember being told that the rainbow pills in the plastic disc that I found were plant food. I also happily read The Joy of Sex, Playboy and What’s Happening to Me? in domestic seclusion. In public school, all I recall was watching documentaries made by the government that used a lot of scare tactics around teen pregnancy. I truly draw a blank when it comes to anything positive about my formal sexual education all the way through high school. I also grew up in a time before the word consent was attached to sex, so maybe that is significant.
How do you think most adults learn about sex?
Apparently, a lot of women learned new sexual things from Fifty Shades of Grey. I’m not convinced. I think it’s more likely that we learn things through lovers and/or active imaginations; through pornography, sex workers and definitely from reading. I took a great workshop recently on The Wheel of Consent with Lori Johnston which was very experiential. Lori kept saying, we have to stop talking, we need to take this work into practice! I think that adult sex ed, in whatever form it takes, wants to trespass set notions about sex that we may have on lockdown. Sometimes there’s a lot of ice to crack through.
What is the format of the evening?
Courtney and I have invited three guests from different disciplines to each make ten minute presentations on the topic at hand. On Thursday, we are featuring Vanessa Oliver, a Laurier professor whose work focuses on sex ed, Cason Sharpe, a writer who has dealt with queer teenage sexuality in his work, and Therese Estacion, a teacher in the Catholic School Board and a poet. We are privileging discussion on stage between our guests as well as a kind of ‘subverted’ audience Q and A where we are making space for people to question, share experiences, and air their concerns. We want Smutburger to be provocative and intimate in equal measure.
What’s an interesting thing you’ve learned about sex lately?
That the binary way of seeing sex and gender is in epistemological crisis! Paul B. Preciado, a “dissident of the sex-gender system,” just had a book launch for his newly released An Apartment on Uranus: Chronicles of the Crossing at Glad Day Books.It was amazing. I highly recommend Preciado’s Testo Junkie, too.
What’s the best sex lesson you ever learned?